On the upside, everything in his life is pretty much figured out—kids, house, finances, and all that. Be prepared to have conversations about his ex, especially if the divorce proceedings are underway. ” He’ll answer stoically with, “I talked to her *the soon-to-be ex-wife*, and she wouldn’t agree to the terms of the divorce.” Then he might go on an angry and bitter tirade of how selfish, awful, or stubborn his ex is.
Be secure enough about yourself to hear about the ex without overanalyzing things or taking it all too personally. While you lend your support for whatever your boyfriend goes through, you don’t have to know every detail of the divorce and even his past relationship.
[Read: The happy couple’s guide to social media etiquette] #4 He’s been there, done that.
He may not feel as excited about the whole idea of marriage, especially after coming off a rough one. The thing is, he might be jaded about the whole thing after what he experienced.
While awkward, be polite and learn to set boundaries for yourself and for them as a divorced couple.
One or both of them may still be bitter about their past marriage or the divorce. Just remember to be the bigger person and don’t make the situation worse for your guy.
So your boyfriend may be divorced, but that doesn’t mean he’s divorced completely from his old life.
He’s still friends with those who are also friends with his ex.
Walk through that stage where they will look you up and down, as well as talk about you behind your back. So you have to learn to adjust to a new, and perhaps strange role of being like a stepmom to his kids. However, if your goal in a relationship is just to enjoy the dating part and are not ready to have instant kids, rethink going out with a divorced guy.Entertain the idea that he may not be too thrilled to integrate you into his circle too soon.He probably expects you to be discreet about your relationship for a while. With being discreet comes social media restrictions.However, keep in mind that you can’t please everyone. [Read: 9 naughty ways to keep romance alive when you have kids] #12 What about your own future kids with him?The important thing to focus on remains your relationship with your boyfriend, which should speak for itself in the end. Tread lightly in this department, because you consider both their well-being without overstepping any boundaries offending them and his ex-wife. When dating a divorced guy, you also have to think not only of his kids *if he has any* but also the idea of future kids with him. Some divorced guys with kids don’t want to have any more kids so you have to include this into the equation.