Funny dating rules
Unmatch anyone the minute they say something weird or gross. So, for example, in my Tinder “profile,” I say that I am a feminist.
That way, any misogynistic people know that they should swipe left.
And I’ve had my fair share of frustration along the way (like the guy who seemed great but told me he was still in love with his ex).
But don’t judge someone solely on their ability to text charmingly. I am a writer, and charmed by people who have a way with words. I hate the term “Facebook stalking” because it shouldn’t be pejorative: we all do it, so let’s own up. It’s a fine balance: get a sense of someone via text/Tinder before meeting, but don’t rely on your text dynamic for too long.While I’m still on my journey toward finding a spiritually fulfilling relationship, I’ve found there are certain ground rules for using Tinder that have really worked for me. Accepting that attraction is a weird, idiosyncratic, kind of mystical thing will help you make dating much easier on yourself.2. Despite the fact that I think Tinder has the potential to be a “gross hookup app,” it’s totally fine if you want to use it for casual hookups. By the same token, if you want something more serious, own that. OK, this one’s my favorite, because it’s a total game-changer in terms of setting your intentions and being authentic.You are not some crazy, monogamy-obsessed loser if you sign up for Tinder because you want a relationship. It will make the whole process less confusing for everyone.3. I once had a dude message me, “You look like a lesbian.” Shocked by his homophobia and otherwise inappropriate greeting, I was tempted to berate him. Before deciding if someone is worth my time, I like to casually mention one of my core values or something I care about right at the get-go.But what’s surprised me even more is that Tinder is an awesome tool to discover what you’re really looking for when it comes to love.The app provides you an endless pool of people to date, which gives you an opportunity to explore how you communicate, what kinds of people you are attracted to and what your non-negotiables are. Sure, it’s kind of alienating and weird to swipe right or left on people’s faces — but if you recognize that it’s simply a part of the deal of dating at large, rather than some kind of evil behavior choice, you’ll be starting off on the right foot. Make reference to one of your non-negotiables — at the get-go.