Tips for dating someone with a child
Chances are, you will go on a date with a survivor, so do yourself and your future dates a favor and start learning about the issue now. If you decide you don’t like the person enough to continue dating them, call them.
There are lots of places where you can go educate yourself at a place like RAINN, National Sexual Violence Resource Center, or 1in6, and here’s a link to a fact sheet from the Center for Disease Control. Go the extra step to let them know that you think they are brave/courageous/insert true and positive adjective here but that you don’t feel that special something you want to feel in order to go out on another date.
Being a survivor of sexual violence does not make you inherently damaged. While we continue to reduce the shame and stigma around sexual violence, it’s still a personal story.
Some people just don't like kids, and those people just shouldn't be around them -- especially not in the role of parent.
If you've always known you never wanted children, remember that and give yourself time to rethink what you're about to do.
There is no right or wrong approach to telling a date that you are a survivor of sexual violence.
It’s a completely personal decision, and you have to figure out what works for you. Sometimes I told them after a second round of drinks.